Be in Love Again

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Why we do what we do, and how we can do it better.

Learn to Respond versus React to our Emotions

Today is 'THE' Day

 “Today is the first day of the rest of my life. I will begin today to create the life of my dreams.”

 How many times have you said that? I know, I know, but let’s take a good look at that statement and what it could really mean to your life.

How many times have you started to exercise only to have that treadmill, stair climber or rowing machine collect dust? Or worse yet, serve as a clothes rack in the cellar. Perhaps you wanted to make a change in your love life so you declared “This is going to be a new day. I will start today to make a change!” but in just a few days you forget what it was you were so adamant about.

All of us do this at times. It does not mean there is anything wrong with you but it could signal that it is time to do things differently. I certainly have done this in my own life. I have struggled to be strong and stay the course, yet I was easily side tracked. Then I learned about accountability. I’m not saying my life is now perfect or without struggle. What I am saying is that with accountability my struggles are lessened.

Take a look at some statistics from the American Society of Training and Development that reveal the probability of successfully completing a goal:

• 10% if you hear an idea.
• 25% if you consciously decide to adopt it.
• 40% if you decide when you will do it.
• 50% if you plan how you will do it.
• 65% if you commit to someone else you will do it.
• 95% if you have a specific accountability appointment with a person to whom you committed. (like your Relationship Coach)

Isn’t this amazing? No wonder coaching is so powerful. 

Of course accountability is not the only aspect to ‘Singles Relationship Coaching’ and I am sure that is what you are interested in if you are reading this blog. Singles coaching offers such things as:

• Creating a life vision and purpose.
• Learning about the stages of love.
• Letting go of limiting beliefs.
• Discovering your personality traits and those you want in a partner.
• Defining your personal needs and wants.
• Making a strategic plan around your requirements in a relationship and moving you into action to have the partner of your dreams.

Do you have a relationship goal that you want to achieve? Perhaps these words will be true for you today: 

“Today is the first day of the rest of my life. I will begin today to create the life of my dreams.”

 

 Join Coach Judith for a free private (always confidential) coaching consultation and see if the Conscious Dating program is for you.  Call today 315.497.3059 or email.

 

 

By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach

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How Negative Emotions Impact our Moods

The story that I am about to tell you is true, although it is hard to believe. I have family members that can back me up on this.

This is a promised story about the infamous Frank, our African Grey Parrot! My husband and I have moved Frank from our living room to the small room just off of the kitchen.
 
I will save that story for another time. Pictured here is Frank about to give me a high five!

African Grey's need stimulation since they have been scientifically proven to have the mentality of a five year old. Because we are away all day working we decided to put a small black and white TV in Frank's room to keep him company. We have a satellite dish so we leave the TV turned on all day to cartoons. This went on for a while and it even got to the point that Frank was yelling out certain cartoon names in the evening.
 
Shortly after we started doing this we noticed Frank was getting more and more aggressive. Anyone owning a bird like Frank knows that Grey's respond to kindness and love. If you get angry and yell at Frank for doing something wrong such as biting you, he will get upset and bite you every time he sees you after that for days. He really does hold a grudge. We knew this about him but what was so surprising was that after watching cartoons all day he began to be very mean all the time. He would bite any one coming near his cage and he would scream and yell in an unusual way. Needless to say it took my husband and my self a long time to figure out that the cartoon violence was making Frank act in this manner.
 
One day we were both home and we saw the cartoon with a lot of violence and Frank was hanging upside down in his cage screaming! I thought, WOW, if this is what goes on all day, perhaps it was key to his behavior. David and I talked it over and decided to change Frank's channel and just see what would happen. Sure enough, Frank turned back into his sweet self. Or should I say.... into as sweet as a Grey can be.  He began to watch ball games, soap operas and game shows.
 
This has really set me on a path of discovery. I ask my self questions now like how does this TV show leave me feeling, energized or exhausted? How does our TV or any negative behavior that we witness impact our own moods? I would love to hear from others on this subject. What has been your experience with this or is it something that you really don't think about? I know I was in the latter group before Frank opened my eyes to what is all around me! The next time you are in a negative mood or just a little off, check your environment and think about what you have been exposed to lately!
 

By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach