Be in Love Again

Tea Time with God

I enjoy tea time with God daily, but it wasn’t always like that. Oh no, for the longest time I was living in the world of shoulds! You know that world. I should go pray now, I should meditate, or I should do self-Reiki. I should, I should, I should…then when I didn’t find the time the guilt would kick in big time.  I would go to bed thinking, “I did not meditate today, shame on me. I know how good it is for me.” I would go round and round like this. Some days were better than others, yet there seemed to be no permanent solution to my should problem.

Then one day a light bulb went on in my head. I was finishing my first cup of tea with my husband, when I thought about my mediation and prayer time that I had missed the day before. I thought, “I will have my second cup of tea with God and see what happens. No pressure to meditate for a strict 20 minute timeframe, actually no restrictions at all during my tea time with God. I simply went into my office, lit a candle and settled in to sip my second cup of tea in silence.  I was inviting God into the space as I drank and sat in silence. A remarkable thing happened. I had a great time. I sipped, I prayed, I closed my eyes for a short mediation and when I opened them 20 minutes had passed. I spent over an hour with my first tea time with God and loved every minute.  It didn’t feel like a should at all.

How was this different than what I usually did?  There simply was no time limit or agenda. I was just there waiting to see what I wanted to do next. Sometimes during tea time I do self-Reiki, sometimes I pull an angel card, most times I meditate, but always I have fun!  My new number one priority, during tea time with God, was to have an enjoyable experience.

I was very busy during this time in my life and I was having a hard time scheduling. Perhaps more shoulds were showing up here, but that was why time to meditate and pray had been such a challenge.  Now I no longer dread having to stop my work to go meditate; instead I now get very excited about my prospect of having tea with God. Whenever I think of doing it, my heart skips a beat. I keep a special journal just for these teas so I can record valuable insights. Such as, during my first tea time I was sipping and wondering what I was going to do with my schedule. Suddenly I noticed a book on my shelf that I had not looked at in a long time. It was A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. I could have just ignored my intuition, but instead I got up and took the book off the shelf. Almost immediately I understood the reason I needed to do that. Out fell a quote I had saved years ago. It was by James A. Michener and it read:

“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he's always doing both. ”
This was just what I needed to hear. I did not need to worry about my schedule. I just needed to pay attention to my soul and do what I love. So now I do not worry if I am getting it right or accomplishing my shoulds. I simply BE and have Tea Time with God.

Shoulds are something that haunt most of us from time-to-time. If you would like to find a solution to your shoulds… I would love to talk with you.  Sign up here for a free consultation.

By Judith Geiger
Be in Love Again Coach

 

 

Happy Women Ditch the Guilt

Guilt runs silently through my veins. It used to motivate much of what I did without me realizing it! Has this ever happened to you? You might not be aware of it, because guilt can be sneaky, swift and silent. Believe me, I know firsthand. I used to run myself into the ground trying to make everyone happy. And my ego felt it was an insult if someone asked if they could help me.  Who me… need help? No, no, no I am fine. I can do it, whatever it was at the moment.

Perhaps it was fixing a dinner for twenty people by myself or painting every room in the house. I could do it all! It really was true, I could do it all, but at what cost? I often exhausted myself to the point of feeling used and unloved. Is any of this sounding familiar?

I could clean the house until it shined, fix a dinner for twenty people without a hitch, and clean up after with minimal dish washing help. Heaven forbid, in those days I did not own a dishwasher, and I wore that like a badge of honor.  Those were the “good” old days; thank goodness I have out grown them. But it wasn’t a stress free process, to go from there to here, but it sure was worth it. It took many hours of personal foundation work and personal coaching for me to understand my real worth.

I came slowly to realize that I was equating extra hard work with my ability to be a good mother, great wife and better friend. Let me say here that I am still a hard worker. It is part of my very DNA. The difference is today I work hard at what “I” truly want to work at. It is not decided by that sneaky guilt. I have finally reached a place of softness for myself. I am able to treat myself as gently as I do others. This past Christmas I was truly able to see how far I have come.

Christmas Eve is a time of celebration for my family and a wonderful meal is one of the ways we celebrate. Normally the person having the dinner does the majority of the cooking and more recently guests bring something to share. This year dinner was at my home and I was spending the previous day with my son and his family and staying overnight. This meant if I was going to spend quality time with my granddaughters who live some distance away, and truly enjoy them, I would not be at my own home until a couple of hours before guests arrived. If it was still the good old days, I would have either not stayed over or worse yet, stayed and hurried home frantically trying to fix dinner. Why? Simply because of the guilt…it is what a good mother does. Isn’t it?

This good mother did it differently this year. For the first time ever I ordered the meal from a nearby restaurant that caters. I made arrangements to pick up our meal in route home from my son’s house on Christmas Eve. We had grilled chicken that fell off the bone, deep dish lasagna, Italian bread, and I made a big tossed salad with tons of veggies. I even ordered the desserts from the restaurant. We dined on four layer carrot cake and coconut cream pie! My husband, when hearing my plans, applauded the idea and was so excited that I would care for myself in this way that he offered to pay for it. In reality it was not much more expensive that buying all the food and cooking it myself. Not to mention it was wonderfully delicious. Who knew?

This gave me breathing space and it also gave breathing space to my guests. They were told to bring NOTHING! Candles were lit on the two tables that were nestled close together, the lights were dim and a very strange thing occurred. Everyone stayed seated in conversation for a long time after eating. Why do you think this happened? My theory is that they were all feeding off of my completely relaxed state. We were experiencing a much different atmosphere than normal. For once I was not over heated, exhausted or hurried. I was able to be completely present and enjoy it as much as they did! We had a magical Christmas Eve without guilt. I even had enough energy left over to get up at 5am and go to Church with a neighbor who was singing at her Mass. She asked me to attend during dinner and I was able to say yes, knowing I would not be too tired.

Are you wondering about my wonderful husband? He kept getting thanked all night for purchasing our meal and I’m pretty sure it made him feel good to be part of our new way of living. By the way, yes, I do own a dishwasher now (although, I do often wash them by hand, when I choose to, it is simply the green in me now… not the guilt).

My wish for you this New Year is to create a life without guilt. You might have to dodge and weave a bit, but I know you can do it. If you need a little assistance to get started I have several coaching slots open and I offer a free 30-minute consultation to help you to decide if coaching is for you. I would love to hear from you! Email me here!

 

By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach

Three Easy Steps: Do Less and Accomplish More

Recently,when working late one evening, I apologized to my husband who had been waiting for me. I was explaining how much work I had to get done. He was quiet for a minute, then these wise words emerged, “You do not HAVE to do anything.” I thought to myself, “Hold on, who is the coach here?” But, he was right. I teach this kind of thing to my clients all the time. It was time to take a refresher course for myself. One of the best ways I remind myself of what I already know
is to write about it. That is one of the reasons Journaling is so important. So here goes!

Three easy steps to do less and accomplish more:

Surrender! Have you ever noticed when you are trying so very hard to accomplish a goal and no matter what you do it seems further and further away? Then one day you just give up and surrender. You put the project down and go for a walk in frustration. As you are walking and letting go more and more…boom the very idea you needed to finish the project downloads into your brain. No effort was required. The information was already there, but you were not allowing it in. When this type of happening occurs for me, I realize it is Spirit assisting me. The help was there all along, yet I had been too busy push push pushing to hear it.

Prioritize! When your to-do list is as long as your arm that is the time to prioritize. Not prioritize your list; most likely you know how to do that. It is time to prioritize YOU. When your list gets that long it is often because you have forgotten a very important priority, your life. Have you noticed when you are very well rested, have a good exercise routine and eat healthy the rest of your life seems to go smoothly? And you thought those things only helped you to live longer. Surprise, they help you to
accomplish more in less time.

Gratitude! Living in true gratitude gives you an open heart. From this place anything is possible. When I was young (a long time ago) my mother would call it counting my blessings. One cool gratitude exercise I give my clients is to list 10 things for which you are grateful for a week. They
say, “That is easy.” Then I tell them the one caveat, you can never list the same thing twice. This exercise helps you go deeper and deeper into what you are grateful for. By week’s end you have seventy things. Read over all seventy anytime you are feeling a little down or overwhelmed to lift you back up. We accomplish more with ease when our spirits are high.

 

By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach

 

 

Live a Bigger Life

A Conscious Life

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will." Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi (1869-1948)

Do you have the strength it takes to live a conscious life?

In order to answer this question we need to look at what a conscious life is. The best way to do this is to look at the three levels of consciousness.

First we have unconscious; which means you are functioning and awake, but not paying much attention to your life or anything around you.

An analogy for this would be; if life is like an iceberg and you were unconscious, you would crash into the iceberg before you were aware it was there and you would sink.

Living life semi-consciously is when you believe your own stories. Anything that is not a pure fact is simply a story. Your stories are sometimes judgmental, opinionated and simply not the truth. We make some of our biggest mistakes when we are operating in a semi-conscious mode, because we only have partial facts. And what is more frightening is that we don't even realize we are doing it. We believe our own stories! After all you have been telling them for years. They are often beliefs that were handed down from your family. You simply accepted them as truth without making a conscious effort to find out if they were truly in alignment with 'who' you really are and your values.

If life is like an iceberg, when you are semi-conscious you know the iceberg is present, but you tell yourself you can avoid it. Before long you crash into it because you did not calculate its size properly. You once again sink and as they say, the rest is history.

When you are living a conscious life you are aware of a much larger picture.You know 'who' you are, where you are going and all the possible ways to get there. You bring all you have ever learned or experienced into your life, in a cohesive way. Another wonderful thing about living a conscious life is that you finally are able to understand what you don't know. You have the awareness that there is more to most situations than you see on the surface of life. With this kind of awareness you can easily see your choices and opportunities before you. Living a conscious life is living with clarity.

If life is like an iceberg, when you live a conscious life you find out exactly what is under the surface of the water before you proceed. You have all the facts to sail safely through life.

If you want to start living a more conscious life you can start by taking Judith's tele-class Conscious Living (Discover Self) starting Nov. 7th Learn more here.

By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach

Conscious Living (Discover Self)

Abraham Linclon once said, “My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” I felt sad reading this, because contentment is paralyzing. I implore you not to give up on your dreams and goals. Watch the video below to get inspired to be all you can be…this video is worth your time. I was so moved by it that I watched it twice and cried both times!

 

Do you want more money, a better career or more fulfilling relationships? How would you like to be able to have a positive state of mind anytime you desire it? I want this for you too. It is all possible if you are ready to take action. All you need is a phone and a desire for more.

For your personal growth and happiness I am offering my Conscious Living (Discover Self) tele-class at a discount. This program will jump start your life. You will learn more about yourself and what is possible. I have even sweetened the deal for this course by adding a free full hour of private coaching and a couple of extra exercises to assist you to achieve a positive state of mind any time you desire and attract more money. I know many of you can use that right now.

 I took $49.00 off of the original price and added the private coaching and extra exercises. You won’t want to miss this six week series. It will never be offered this low again.  While the economy is recovering I want to do my part to help as many people as I can.  This program will assist you with confidence, motivation, and clarity.

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By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach

Music that Touches Your Soul & Heals

Thinking back through my life I realized that music has had a more important role for me during times of trial. Instinctually I knew it was healing. There are two things I tap strongly into when I need healing. They are music and nature. Last night at the Snatam Kaur concert in Auburn New York I felt like I tapped into both. One of the songs she sang was to honor Mother Earth (Gia) and during her singing I felt like I could see the stars.

 

It is hard for me to describe exactly what went on during her concert. I have had her CD called Grace for years, but this was my first time hearing her live. I did not know that the audience chants with her and boy did we chant! Snatam said we needed to be vocal with the chants in order to transform and heal. After a few minutes she complimented the audience by saying they were singing the loudest of any audience she ever had. “You are Auburn, the chanting capitol of the world.” Everyone cheered!

It was a sold out event. To allow more to come in they put a dozen chairs on stage to the sides and more people sat on the floor in front of the first row. Are you getting the picture of the energy in the room? As the evening continued the music seemed to take on a holy quality. I am sure every ascended master was looking down and smiling. The cello added mystery to the music.

When the entire audience stood up and held their hands high in the air as she sang “rain pouring down on you” my heart melted, because so many people were feeling the music on a soul level. As she ended with a prayer song, everyone, and I mean everyone had their hands in prayer position. Awesome!

I am writing to you today about this concert to create awareness about healing. There are many ways to heal, such as; Reiki, coaching, therapy, various healing arts, and there is music. Turn off the horrible news long enough to just listen to the music. When you are ready sing along and heal!

By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach

5 Easy Ways to Uplift Your Spirit ~ Week 5

Choose to Be Happy to Uplift Your Spirit

“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.”

John Pierpont Morgan

 

This quote says it all…happiness is a choice. I was witness to this truth this past weekend after I woke in an unusually bad mood. I was feeling sorry for myself because of some recent events and I was falling into a real funk. Has this ever happened to you? It is an old pattern of mine that happens much less often now that I have chosen happiness in my life, yet every once in a while it will raise its ugly head for me to deal with.

A couple of times that morning my husband asked “what is wrong with you?” I simply told him I was in a bad mood. He left quietly! One thing I know that often helps me to feel better is to get into motion. No sitting around for me letting it get worse. So I started cleaning. Kitchen first, it was so shiny I could see my reflection in the appliances. Hummm…no better! I moved on to my African Grey parrots room. This is always a challenging job that leaves me feeling satisfied. Not today. It was clean as a whistle and I still felt down. Thinking about this for a minute I realized that I had not consciously chosen to be happy. Right then with my new awareness I declared out loud, “Today I CHOOSE to be happy!”

In about five minutes the phone rang and it was my daughter asking us to come over later for dinner. I heard myself answer in a cheerful voice, “We would love to come.”  After hanging up the phone I wondered what my voice would have sounded like a few minutes earlier and would I have agreed to go? I could actually feel my energy shifting with my declaration to be happy. Moments later my husband came into my office and asked if I would like to go with him and our dog for a long walk in the woods. Since I know this is one of my greatest pleasures I said yes, then I said yes to a chat with him under our favorite shade tree and a long horseback ride. By the time I was ready for dinner at my daughter’s my funk was completely gone. All because I chose to be happy and then took action to make it so.

How to choose to be happy!

• Declare your intention to be happy! Out loud if possible, if not then to yourself. You can hang these words, “I choose to be happy today” on the mirror with a post-it note. This will serve as a reminder through your day.
• Get up and get moving. This will start shifting your energy. You want to move the stale energy out of your body. Movement, when possible, is a great way to move toward happiness. My favorite quick trick to feeling better is to go outside and walk in the grass bare footed. This will help to ground you in the now, so you can let go of worry.
• Do something you love. It does not matter what it is. Walk your dog, paint a picture, or put on some of your favorite music and dance.  Try finding a local Yoga class or practice on your own. Yoga is great for shifting energy.
• Close your day with your gratitude journal. This will assist you to wake up ready to choose happiness again tomorrow.

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”  Dalai Lama

Happiness is a choice. What do you choose?

By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach

5 Easy Ways to Uplift Your Spirit ~ Week 4

Let Your Spirit Soar

This is week four of exploring ways to uplift your spirit.

“There is one thing one has to have: either a soul that is cheerful by nature, or a soul made cheerful by work, love, art, and knowledge.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Is your soul cheerful? I used to believe all souls were happy and full of cheer. Lately I have come to realize it is something we need to nurture. Let’s play a bit with the idea that you hold the power of your soul’s happiness. Close your eyes for a second and imagine you are holding a conversation with your soul. Ask it what it needs to be cheerful. Wait quietly for an answer.  Did you get a word, or perhaps an image? There may have been nothing at all. No matter, it is all perfect. If you didn’t get a word or an impression, then make something up. Ask yourself this magic question, “If I knew what made my soul happy, what might it be?”

Now take what you either made up or the inner impression you got and begin to do whatever it was. Perhaps you saw yourself writing a book, with your soul’s help of course. Maybe it was a child’s book with colorful illustrations. Or you might have been practicing ballet, tap or contemporary dance.  I know without a doubt that my soul loves it when my body gets up and moves, such as, when I go hiking, or take a yoga class, even dancing delights my soul. It simply wants to be active.

Your soul might love to meditate or learn something new? Maybe your soul longs for a closer spiritual union. Think outside of the box here. In other words let’s color way outside the lines when we try to discover what makes your soul cheerful.

Play around with ideas until you feel deep inside what your soul longs for. Make it happen. I find when I think about making my soul happy versus making me happy there is a whole new dynamic. It feels so much more powerful and necessary to make my soul happy. It becomes a responsibility of sorts.

So all excuses be gone…start today.  Uplift your spirit by taking the time to do what your soul loves to do! Feel the delight grow inside of you…let your spirit soar!!!

By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach

5 Easy Ways to Uplift Your Spirit ~ Week 3

Don’t Discount Gratitude

Article after article has been written about gratitude.  To the point that I believe people simply bypass gratitude articles to look for something new, something fresh.  But wait, stop and think about why so many people write and talk about gratitude. It is because it WORKS!

Gratitude is your first step in the Law of Attraction. The more time you spend being grateful the more the universe will show up and prove you are right. You will suddenly have more and more to be grateful for.

A recent example from my own life happened just this week. I wrote in detail, with an open heart, how grateful I was for my life on facebook. A little later I walked into my kitchen for lunch and sitting on my counter were 12 red roses in a pretty clear vase. My husband, for no particular reason, bought them and left them for me to find. The more I open my heart to gratitude, the more I find to be grateful for. It is a win-win situation!

Another example is from a client. I was working with a young man recently and I asked him how he had developed such a good sense of what he had and what he wanted to develop further in his life. He told me how much his gratitude journal had helped him. He only wrote two things each day he was grateful for and it changed his life.

Are you ready to change your life? If yes, then let’s begin.

• Chose your gratitude journal with care. Buy one that delights you. Or make your own out of a notebook. You can add photos or draw pictures on the front. It should inspire you to use it each time you see it. I had my clients make their own journal in a retreat once and I was surprised recently to see years later they still had them. Make your journal that kind of meaningful.
• Either when you first get up or just before bed is the best time to write in your journal. You will be more focused and open to gratitude. Simply list 2-10 things you are grateful for. Try very hard not to list the same things. You really want to go deep here. Dig for things you are grateful for that you take for granted or have not thought of in a long time. Such as a long hot shower, electricity, or the soft breathing sounds of your children sleeping.
• Get others involved. You can start a gratitude chain. Get a few friends you trust with your inner life and send your gratitude list to one of them each day by email. Then have that person send theirs to a different friend and so on. All this gratitude hitting inboxes is bound to stir up some positive energy. You can also simply do an email exchange with one other person. I did this for a couple of years with a woman I never met. It was very powerful.
• Don’t stop.  We all live busy hectic lives, but I am sure you can at least find time to write down two things a day you are grateful for. It just might have a bigger effect on your life than you can even imagine.

"We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures." - Thornton Wilder

 By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach

A Magical & Spontaneous Way to Reduce Stress

Magical and spontaneous was how my tears felt yesterday during a Sangha (a spiritual gathering).  I had no idea there was any sadness built up in me as we began the discussion, yet the theme of the day was “May all animals be happy and surrounded by love”. When it was my turn to share I started telling everyone about my precious mare, Dee, who is aging and not well. Dee has been my animal soul companion for many years. As I began to share about my horse with this loving group the tears just came. You know the kind I mean, they start in the corner of your eye and just when you think no one has noticed, they escape down your face.  

At the end of the gathering my horse and I were put virtually into the center of the healing circle. Prayers were offered up that we might both be at peace with whatever is to come. Of course sitting in such unconditional love made the tears flow even more. Now the nose was dripping!

As Charles Dickens says in Great Expectations “We need never be ashamed of our tears.” Instead of feeling uncomfortable and ashamed about crying, as our society has led us to believe we should, I took a hard look at what happened so unexpectedly. I found some interesting research on how crying reduces stress and enhances your health.  Neuroscientist Dr. William H. Frey II, PhD, at Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis studied tears and crying for 15 years.  Through his research he found that our tears contain stress hormones that are released from the body through crying. Great news, don’t you think? It is actually healthy to cry! If our tears are left bottled up they can lead to stress related disorders.

As I sat in that sacred circle, with kindred spirits, my tears were releasing stress hormones and having a healthy effect on my body. Imagine if I had held them in? So let the magic of healing begin with a tear. Don’t suppress what needs to erupt. “There you go...let it all slide out. Unhappiness can't stick in a person's soul when it's slick with tears.”― Shannon Hale, Princess Academy

Learn more: “For over twenty years as physician, I’ve witnessed, time and again, the healing power of tears.” Excerpt from Judith Orloff’s wonderful article The Health Benefits of Tears.  Judith is one of my favorite authors. I am sure you will enjoy all of her work.

 

By Judith Geiger

Be in Love Again Coach