I enjoy tea time with God daily, but it wasn’t always like that. Oh no, for the longest time I was living in the world of shoulds! You know that world. I should go pray now, I should meditate, or I should do self-Reiki. I should, I should, I should…then when I didn’t find the time the guilt would kick in big time. I would go to bed thinking, “I did not meditate today, shame on me. I know how good it is for me.” I would go round and round like this. Some days were better than others, yet there seemed to be no permanent solution to my should problem.
Then one day a light bulb went on in my head. I was finishing my first cup of tea with my husband, when I thought about my mediation and prayer time that I had missed the day before. I thought, “I will have my second cup of tea with God and see what happens. No pressure to meditate for a strict 20 minute timeframe, actually no restrictions at all during my tea time with God. I simply went into my office, lit a candle and settled in to sip my second cup of tea in silence. I was inviting God into the space as I drank and sat in silence. A remarkable thing happened. I had a great time. I sipped, I prayed, I closed my eyes for a short mediation and when I opened them 20 minutes had passed. I spent over an hour with my first tea time with God and loved every minute. It didn’t feel like a should at all.
How was this different than what I usually did? There simply was no time limit or agenda. I was just there waiting to see what I wanted to do next. Sometimes during tea time I do self-Reiki, sometimes I pull an angel card, most times I meditate, but always I have fun! My new number one priority, during tea time with God, was to have an enjoyable experience.
I was very busy during this time in my life and I was having a hard time scheduling. Perhaps more shoulds were showing up here, but that was why time to meditate and pray had been such a challenge. Now I no longer dread having to stop my work to go meditate; instead I now get very excited about my prospect of having tea with God. Whenever I think of doing it, my heart skips a beat. I keep a special journal just for these teas so I can record valuable insights. Such as, during my first tea time I was sipping and wondering what I was going to do with my schedule. Suddenly I noticed a book on my shelf that I had not looked at in a long time. It was A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. I could have just ignored my intuition, but instead I got up and took the book off the shelf. Almost immediately I understood the reason I needed to do that. Out fell a quote I had saved years ago. It was by James A. Michener and it read:
“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he's always doing both. ”
This was just what I needed to hear. I did not need to worry about my schedule. I just needed to pay attention to my soul and do what I love. So now I do not worry if I am getting it right or accomplishing my shoulds. I simply BE and have Tea Time with God.
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By Judith Geiger
Be in Love Again Coach