Have you ever felt that real deep down sense of struggle? I sure have. Recently I failed at something that was very important to me. When I say failed, I mean heart wrenching, gut churning failure. I immediately went into an old pattern of struggle. It sounded like this; “What am I going to do? I was planning on this success to move my life forward. Everything in my life feels upside down. I just want to go to bed and pull the covers over my head”…ever been there?
Luckily, I have a wonderful support system of family, friends and my coach. This time it was something my daughter said that shook me out of my struggle, she said “Mom, I give you three days to truly feel the pain, then get going again in the direction of your dream.” I did just that, bigger and better than ever!
Five ways to let struggle fuel your success:
First recognize what feels like a struggle (whatever that is for you) and give yourself a limited time to process it! Then begin again, from wherever you are, because where you are is perfect. As Byron Katie says, “How do I know? Because you are there!”
Let the struggle show you what is important to you. If you want things to be different you need to make new choices. If you are not clear on what it is you truly want? Then take some time to Journal or hire a coach to assist you with clarity.
Use the lessons you learned from your struggle to be the catalyst that drives you to succeed. If you allow the struggle to teach you, it will. You only need to be willing to learn. How can your personal struggle be your greatest ally? What do you want to do differently or better?
Create a positive affirmation that moves you away from struggle. Then say it several times a day. In fact, say it every time you feel any struggle coming on. An example might be; “I am safe and secure. My life is truly guided.” Now create your own. One that has special meaning for you, but always start with “I am……”
Take a stand for your life! Choose to let go of all struggle. Remember struggle is optional. You can choose to do things differently. Start now!
By Judith Geiger
Be in Love Again Coach